Our pain reveals itself to be the sacred fire of transformation – it forces change and burns through resistance. When emotional pain becomes unbearable, there is only one effective option – healing. When the traumas of the past are destroying our chance for happiness and peace in each moment, what is the process for transmuting that pain into love?
Taking the first step means making a commitment to the inner work that will lead us out of pain. Humility and sincerity are potent companions for true change, and it seems that for many of us pain is one of the secret keys to those states. “It brought me to my knees” is a description of being humbled, changed into a person who willingly steps forth into the healing process. The depth of that humility is the power of it. “Give everything to get everything” is a message I received at an important time of my life, and event led to an unfoldment more wonderful than my mind could have imagined (think; Hawaii).
Once we’re on our knees what next? I recommend asking for what you want, spending time in contemplation (also known as meditation). I began by using each bump in the road as a messenger and seeing each person I encountered during the day as a carrier of whatever message I needed to hear the most in any given time. I gave myself permission to feel, to deeply feel all the confusing, painful, avoid-at-any-cost feelings that had been denied for so long. “Every feeling fully felt leads to love” is a message I received early on and that teaching carried me through many hardships and still does, to this day. Like most wisdom gems, it comes to mind when it is most needed.
Emptying our mind so that truth can flow and peace can land is challenging. It means sitting with discomfort, with the ongoing mindstream that is creating our reality. Learning to get a distance from our thoughts is powerfully healing. Realizing that we can come to a place of choice where emotions are concerned is one of the milestones I’ve come to appreciate. Following any system that resonates as truth will bring us to the place of peace and happiness. There’s no timeline, it takes what it takes, but trusting that we can make it through our challenges gives a stability to the process. This is one of the deeper meanings of trust in Great Spirit, God, Creator, the Divine, the Tao, whatever name you prefer. I choose to trust in the benevolence of this mystery, and use the appearance of what isn’t benevolent as another messenger. How can I have compassion for even the darkest day?